Saturday, August 28, 2010

Divorce Porn

Is it possible that we love watching divorce the way we do a car crash or a man falling from the flying trapeze? Bruce Feiler in the New York Times discusses Eat, Pray, Love as the newest book turned movie plunges into what he deems Divorce Porn. He interviewed novelist Nora Roberts who agrees with him. "Love has power, which is one of the reasons we’re interested when it screws up,” Roberts states in the article.

I found the same truth when I was post-divorce. Sure I looked for other divorced couples-- or uncouples--to commiserate with, but I was also on the search for eye candy for my kid. I wanted him to have a few other divorced family peers -and why not? I didn't want him to be the only one with divorced parents. I knew I wouldn't have to wait to long for couples to split, eventually he'd know some kids whose mom and dad were like his. And he did.

Has it made it better for him? I don't know. It gives him a reference point. It doesn't give him his mother and father happily married --which is what all kid wants, right?

Does it make it better for me to see Sandra Bullock struggling? Does it make it better to see Tiger Woods's kids will grow up without their dad in the house? Is it sick to say that the divorce porn theory might be right? That maybe it this odd part of human nature that makes divorce fascinating and satisfying all at once?

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